Party now and you may be celebrating in May… just like United in our amazing treble year of 1999
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UPDATED:
00:19 GMT, 23 December 2012
I had not missed being a footballer
since quitting almost two years ago until this week, when I saw the
video clips of Shinji Kagawa singing Gangnam Style at Manchester
United’s Christmas party.
And of Robin van Persie singing ‘Glory, Glory Man United’. Like many former professionals, it’s the camaraderie in the dressing room that I miss. And never was the team spirit more tangible in my time at United than at the Christmas parties.
It’s a real shame that we’ve seen a lot of teams cancel their parties out of respect for the fans — sides such as QPR and Reading — and other clubs banning them because of the potential trouble they can cause if they get out of hand or the way they might be reported in the media.
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I understand why clubs and managers feel they have to take that step. When every phone is a camera, it’s almost impossible to allow yourself a night out. Even something relatively innocuous can cause problems for the club or the players in the media. And it’s always possible, as at any Christmas party across the country, that a serious incident might occur.
But when people pinpoint the moment they thought Manchester United would win the Treble in 1999, most analysts will point to the amazing FA Cup semi-final win against Arsenal or the comeback in the Champions League against Juventus. But no one in that squad would underestimate the importance of December 21, 1998, the date of the Christmas party.
As a squad, we would work hard all season, living disciplined lives, but would always have an eye on two events: the pre-season tour night out and the Christmas do. For years we would start the Christmas party in central Manchester for lunch and then move on to The Old Grapes pub by around five o’clock. An acoustic guitarist would be on stage and for two or three hours we would sing non-stop together as a group before going on to a private party which would go past midnight for as long as you could keep going.
And if you could give me back 15 days
of my life, then a good few of them would be in that pub singing those
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And you got to
see people as you never normally would. We found out in 1998 that Dwight
Yorke could balance 25 cocktails on a tray on his head and walk round
the club serving every player. We heard Roy Keane deliver one of the
all-time funniest speeches that no one will ever forget.
Occasionally
comments would come out in anger and there would be arguments but even
that could break some of tension. When done properly that helped to
provide a level of accountability among the team that we needed.
And you would also have
conversations that broke down barriers. Peter Schmeichel gave me a
terrible time when I broke into the first team. And it was on a team day
out two years later that he sat me down and said: ‘Look, I’m sorry. I
thought you were a risk to our performance level and would make too many
mistakes.’ And then he shook my hand and said: ‘I was wrong.’ And he
would never have said that in the dressing room.

Robin van Persie, Rio Ferdinand and Alexander
Buttner all celebrated their success in the Premier League at Saturday's
Christmas party
At
the 1997 Christmas do, Eric Cantona sat down with a group of us younger
players and told us that we would win the European Cup that year. He
was a year off in his prediction but he gave us that belief that we
could. And we couldn’t have had that kind of conversation with Eric at
that stage outside of the Christmas party.
Not
everyone in that group got on. Famously, Roy Keane and Peter Schmeichel
never did, nor did Andy Cole and Teddy Sheringham. But to create a team
dynamic, there has to at least be a level of tolerance. They have to
all be wanting the same goal so that when you have disappointments you
can rally round each other. And there has to be accountability among the
players.
And
I genuinely believe that the Christmas parties were pivotal in creating
that. In 1998 we had been disappointing up to Christmas. We had lost
against Arsenal, Sheffield Wednesday, Spurs and to Middlesbrough at
home. But after Christmas we were unbeaten until the end of the season
Don’t
get me wrong. The main reason you have success on a football pitch is
down to what you do on the training ground. It’s down to dedication and
determination and concentration during a match. But just as important is
the mentality of the squad. And that means being able to call out your
team-mates when they’re not delivering. The best teams police
themselves.

Roy Keane and Peter Schmeichel didn't get on but played massive roles in Manchester United's modern day success
Sometimes those
exchanges among players after a match can be brutal. But hearing those
harsh truths becomes more acceptable when you understand each other
better as people and understand where they’re coming from. Once I
realised that Peter Schmeichel didn’t actually dislike me but merely
wanted what was best for the team, I appreciated why he had been hard on
me.
Times changed and we
had our watershed moment in 2008, when a party I had organised at a
hotel ended up with a player being arrested — though he was eventually
cleared. But it created a situation that made life difficult at the club
and parties were banned — though they have clearly made a comeback in a
more understated fashion
So
it’s much more difficult to create that kind of atmosphere now. And
it’s very lazy to suggest that you just need a few beers to bond.
Anyway, most elite footballers hardly drink now because if you do you’ll
quickly fall behind in the pecking order. The old school can’t work any
more.
Managers such as Sir
Alex Ferguson and Harry Redknapp have said recently that they have had
to mellow as they grew more experienced because footballers have changed
and don’t respond to blunt dressing downs. You need to find new ways to
motivate, to build a team and to make sure the players hold each other
to account.
Because, in an
era when all teams have taken advantage of the advances in sports
science, technology, statistics and training, where will you get that
added edge It has to be in the collective strength of the mentality of
the group.
Maybe sports
psychologists can help. The manager’s speeches and leadership will help
to build that. But ultimately it’s a difficult dynamic to impose. You
create it yourselves as a team and that means you have to make the
effort to go out together.
The
easy thing is to go out in your own groups but if you want to create a
team spirit then you have to make space for people to relax and get to
know each other as a team three or four times a season. I genuinely
believe that can give you the kind of edge you need when you’re 1-0 down
against Bayern Munich in a Champions League final with just three
minutes of injury time to play.

That unbelievable night: Gary and brother Phil celebrate European Cup glory at the Nou Camp in 1999
United and Real must focus on improving ahead of showdown
When I heard the Champions League draw on Thursday morning, my first thought was: ‘Ouch!’ That was quickly followed by: ‘What a game!’
Because it is the toughest draw United could have had, given that they finished top of their group. But it’s also a game in which you dream of playing, a fixture that evokes incredible memories and promises endless possibilities, with the added excitement of Cristiano Ronaldo coming back to Old Trafford with Jose Mourinho.
It’s less then eight weeks to go now until they meet and both clubs need to hit top form quickly. Usually you would talk about March, April and May being the crucial months of the season. Both Real Madrid and United can forget that now. Neither team will be competitive in February unless they’re absolutely at their peak.
United may be top of the Premier League but they haven’t been at their best yet, while Real have struggled in their league and will be focusing most of their energy on the Champions League now. And if they want to compete for the ultimate trophy, they will have to use the next two months to improve.

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